First they have to realize that abuse is wrong. What they need to do is write down anytime they have hurt someone. Hurting someone includes, stalking, lying, using substances or use of them by the ones they abuse to abuse them, using threats of violence towards others, stealing, forcing people to stay with them.
What they can do is identify their abuses then write them down, quiet themselves and listen to what comes to them to do, then write that down. Many times in our lives there are ways to heal from what we have done to others, maybe never make it better, but at least whatever harm you have done to others that you learn to be better to others in some way. Abuse creates a gross ness in their being no matter the reason and this is something that can take a long time to heal.
How do you know when you are abusive?
Do you ever say if you would just do what I say then I wouldn’t harm you mentally or physically?
Do you lie to them verbally? Do you believe in violence for any reason? Do you think that you are better than them? Do you use children as an excuse to not hear that the person doesn’t want to be with you? Do you use sex or religion as an excuse to hurt others?
These are samples of questions that you can ask yourself and then write down what comes to you and then you will be able to start the healing process.
Will be creating a class for stalker mentality. Anyone whom has ideas on how to help heal stalker mentality that is NOT saying to stay with an abusive being as the way to not be stalked by them please submit ideas.